It’s Time to Talk about my ‘Real’ Identity

Hi, guys. I think now is the time to address something that most annonymous teen (or any age really) bloggers know and understand.

The dreaded “WHO THE BLOODY HELL ARE YOU REALLY?” question. Thank you to Be Different Buddy for letting me think about this – go check out their blog; they are great.

Right. So as many of you who have read my blog know, I go by a LOT of different names – check out the list to really understand what I’m talking about.

The main ones I go by are my RL name, Gemma, and of course Elm.

Some bloggers reveal their real name on here. Some don’t. I’m one of the ones who don’t, but if you do email me requesting to know what it is, I’ll tell you. Probably.

No, honestly – I would, because the majority of you don’t know me in real life.

But there’s a very good reason, at least to me, why I don’t reveal my real name on here.

It’s not because I’m scared – or not really. It’s because of real life people.

Put it this way: my name isn’t unusual. But if someone who knew me stumbled upon this blog, when my real name was being used – they’d be able to tell it was me.

Like I said, my name’s not unusual. But I’m blind, I’m 15, and I live in England. Those that know me would be able to tell, straight away, that it was me by those factors, and also the situations I’ve described. The main one who comes to mind would be Ash.

He’d know it was him for sure. And then, he would hate me. This is not just some “OMFG my crush hates me WHYYY” it is a “One of the best friends I’ve ever had, who I trust implicitly, hates me and will never, ever speak to me again.”

Perhaps if I hadn’t revealed other things about me, I would have used my real name. But as it is, I won’t.

If you do email me, asking me what it is, I have no reason to lie to you unless I suspected that you were someone who knew me in real life. And even so, I’d just say that I wasn’t comfortable revealing it YET, and that I would once we’d talked.

Thank you for reading, everyone. I hope that you guys can understand my position on this and I’m sorry for not being able to reveal my real name yet. It seems almost selfish of me, but there is no way I’m risking someone finding out who could very well hurt me beyond repair.

From Elm

42 thoughts on “It’s Time to Talk about my ‘Real’ Identity

  1. It really is hard being anonymous isn’t it? because you have to be so careful with what your saying on the off case someone finds your blog, like for example, there’s times i really want to talk about my old nicknames (because boy there are some stories with that) but i can’t because a lot of them are linked into my actual name and identity sooo

  2. Hey basically I am not able to get u perfectly but thank you very much for saying that my blog is going well!
    Though what you mean by you’re blind!!??
    And I wish you very best n hope you’ll reavel your identity one day!
    I’ll be waiting for you to reavel it.. πŸ™‚

      • Look you said you are blind in literal sense so I just want to know what was that?
        If it is true than how are you able to reply me??!!
        Seriously I am not getting this!!

      • Um well I have this computer called a braillenote, and I connected it to my phone (I’ve got an iPhone so you can do that) and I use that to type. Also I can use a Mac which has something called voiceover πŸ™‚ Sorry, I should have made that clearer. I think I’ll make a post on it tomorrow to explain it all.

      • Oh I am sorry I didn’t get you before..
        But now i know it!
        Best of luck!
        And yes I am waiting for your post!!
        Regards Akiraa

      • πŸ™‚
        Bbye tc..
        Check my last posts and I mean in one of them!
        I am sorry again I didn’t get you before..
        I have to rush cause my battery is going down!!
        Bbye.. πŸ™‚

      • See you! πŸ™‚ If you have any more questions, feel free to ask me because I’m happy to answer.

      • Oh yea sure!
        Actually I am not leaving you like this cause I am gonna have tons of questions for you!
        But for now I need to go..
        But I guess your post will solve many doubts.. *hoping* πŸ˜€
        Bbye tc!!!

      • Hahaha let’s hope! πŸ™‚ Do email though at some point if you need to because some of my explanations may be VERY long. See you later!

  3. Yeah, I kind of felt the same. But because I have such a different character on the outside I am pretty 100% no body would ever find me, aha. This is such a random comment to put here, but I am very grateful to be able to have a blog. It is different to a diary to me. You can make it as private, or as public as you like. And it is you. People will never know how much I actually talk to myself, or how much I engage with the people in my head and ‘hallucinations’, but I can address that in any form I want to in my blog. I like the name Elm, you should keep it. Address yourself in anyway you feel comfortable. For me, the nickname Mona represents me more than my actual name (Which actually sounds little from Mona – my last name sounds like Mona, aha), as it reminds me of ‘Mona the Vampire’, aha, have you seen that? It’s a cool tv show.

    • I love your comments; they are the best thing ever. I do know what you mean – with a blog, you can do whatever you like. With a diary, there’s an automatic assumption. I don’t actually know where I got the name Elm from; I’m planning on keeping it. Elm will ALWAYS be close to my heart.
      Nope; haven’t watched it! What’s it about?

  4. Im regretting my decision to use my real name. Oh dear. I’m so afraid of people I know finding this because if they do they will know who I’m talking about in my posts and I’ll be done for. Meep.

  5. Well anonymity is everyone’s choice and there’s nothing wrong with that. The only time I think people who animosity in a bad way is when they use it to bash and hate on someone

    • Yeah – that’s just not on. For me, I use a different name so that I can talk about MYSELF. Hating on someo is bullying, plain and simple.

  6. I use one of the nicknames some people know so if they ever come across my blog? They’ll know it all πŸ˜›
    But there’s a couple of times I’ve had my friends look at some of the posts I write and things like that so I guess there’s no anonymity anymore πŸ˜€

    Anyway, I just wanted to say I love what you write and being paranoid well.. no one can really help it on here..

  7. My name is unusual -which is part of the reason why I haven’t revealed it on here- but I like the name Elm! It’s like the blog is an extension of you.. Almost as if it’s a branch growing off from the tree that is you (You see where this is going, right? Trees and stuff..)

  8. I don’t think I’d like you any better/lesser if I did know your name. Plus, Elm is a really cool pseudonym.

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