Let’s Talk about Regrets

Earlier, I was making my own breakfast WOOAAAH I was being independent; my sister was shocked) and, whilst I was wandering around the kitchen, I came to the realisation that I don’t regret anything.

You know those thoughts that just pop into your head? Yeah – that was one of those. I had to think about it for a while – I do that by planning out this post, actually, which is often what I do when I need to think on a topic.

I don’t regret things because EVERY SINGLE thing I’ve been through has taught me something. I know this sounds clichΓ©, but for me, it’s the truth. Usually it’s about myself, but often there are two things. I’ll give you an example.

If anyone’s going through an argument with their friend, think about this: you said something to them, and they retaliated in a bad way, or they were hurt and said something awful back. What’s that taught you? Well, it shows you that saying that was not such a good idea, and so you won’t do that again. But it’s ALSO taught you that some friends might not understand you fully, and wouldn’t understand WHY you said what you said. Does that make sense?

Let’s have another example.

So, say you got a “bad” mark on a Maths test, or a Science test. You feel pretty crap, because you wanted to get a good grade, and you’re scared people will be disappointed in you and you’re disappointed in yourself. THAT teaches you to maybe study harder, but it also teaches you that grades don’t make a person. That seems like a pretty long jump for me to make, but here’s the thing: you’re the same person. Whether you got an E, C or A, you’re the same person underneath, because grades don’t define you.

I’ll tell you some of the things I don’t regret, but not why, because that’s for you to guess. They’re pretty obvious πŸ˜€

I’ll never regret falling in love with Ash.

I’ll never regret the friendship I had with him.

I’ll never regret the arguments, the pain, the tears.

I’ll never regret telling Birch how I felt about him.

I’ll never regret trusting the people I’ve trusted.

I’m learning now that swamping your life with regrets helps nothing and, as stupid as this sounds, it’s better to take something FROM it than to say, “Aww shit, shouldn’t have done that.”

I hope that this was somewhat relatable to somebody, and I’m not just yabbering on about crap. I like to give advice, even if it’s crap advice, so I’d love to know what you think.

Thank you for reading! (I sound like one of those all-too-cheerful flight attendants – ‘thank you for flying with blah blah blah!’ Remind me to never say that again.

From Elm πŸ™‚

46 thoughts on “Let’s Talk about Regrets

  1. Wow that part about the grades is so encouraging like yas, I’m the same person even though i get B in my report card 😊
    I often forgot, that grades doesn’t define a person , thanks for reminding me again ❀ Great post!(:

  2. It’s one of the best things you can do – to live a life with no regrets. It’s the way to be happy and comfortable with yourself and your decisions πŸ™‚
    Also thanks for that bit about grades, I get mine tomorrow and am freaking out aaaaa

  3. This is how I look at stuff. Because I had a not-so-good relationship AND I flunked some important test, but it doesn’t make me regret it makes me try and do better in the future.

  4. Your right we shouldn’t regret everything, I know to many people that do. A lot of people ask me now if I regret going out with someone as he’s, well, changed now. But I don’t because at the time I was so happy and that’s what we should think about. We’ve learnt and we probably enjoyed it even if we wouldn’t do it again.

  5. I liked this earlier but I just came across it again on my dash and wanted to tell you that I can totally relate to this! I find that at first it is really easy to blame yourself for it, but once it all settles in,you realize that there is no point in regretting it because it happened for a reason and you came away so much wiser from it! On a little bit of a side note, would you be able to read my latest post and tell me what you think of it? I really enjoyed writing it but I am just wondering if it is a good type of post to do or not!

  6. That’s super cool Elm. It’s great that you can learn from your experience, even the bad ones, and I hope I can do that too someday! πŸ™‚

  7. regretting is a waste of time. You can’t go back and make things right. When someone is regretting, he is living in the past, not in the present. THE ONLY thing we can do is to learn from our mistakes. Looking back I realised that whatever happens, happens for the best !

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