Girls or Boys or Whatever, you know?

Sometimes, I want a relationship with a girl.

NO! That didn’t come out right. One second…

So, I… Like, I suppose you’d say, or am attracted to boys or girls or any gender, really. Not that it matters – I’m saying it for context, I guess. Physically, I’m attracted to both sexes. (Why am I labelling my sexuality like this? I am who I am. Much deep philosophy here).

But I’ve never had a “romantic” experience with a girl. “Saying that, my “romantic” experiences with boys aren’t much to go by, but I’ve had some.

I miss Cassia and Hazel so much sometimes it hurts. Cassia more, because FRANCE and that’s all I’ll say. She never confirmed she was attracted to girls, but the point is, it could have gone somewhere.

It’s not that I WANT a relationship with a girl. I don’t WANT a relationship with a boy; I’m not going to actively seek either. If something comes along, I’ll take it. If I get attracted to someone, so be it; I won’t complain.

The point is, I want to know what it’s like. In a way, I want to know what it’s like to like a girl and have her liking you back. (Not that that’s happened much with boys, but enough with my pity party shit).

Do you understand what I’m trying to say? And do you get that, too? Because I’ve never done much physically with ANYONE, but I have with boys more than I have girls (let me laugh for a second here).

It’s a mix of curiosity and realising I have the capacity to love ANYONE, regardless of gender.

Hmm… I’m so glad I’m getting back into the swing of things now. It’s bloody freeing.

Thanks for everything, guys.

What do you think about all this? What’s your sexuality, and are you comfortable with it? Because no matter what, you’re a person, regardless of who you like or don’t like. I’m not the best motivater for this kind of thing, but I try.

From Elm πŸ™‚

39 thoughts on “Girls or Boys or Whatever, you know?

  1. i feel like this sometimes too because I find boys intimidating and I oftn wonder if being I guess involded with a girl is what I need . But I am actually straight …I think

  2. Interesting. This subject came up earlier in a convo with my bestie. I told him that despite currently being attractive to guys, if at some point in life I’m attractive to a girl, so be it. After all, who am I to stop my own heart from feeling affection? Even if it happens to be a girl, then so what? It’s love either way:)

    • You are seriously amazing and you’re exactly right πŸ™‚
      Girls are people, and so are boys; people are the things I’m attracted to and I won’t let gender screw with that

  3. I’ve only ever been attracted to or liked guys, so I guess I would be labelled as straight, but to me I wouldn’t rule out a relationship with a girl, if I liked her etc. that’s just never happened before. Sexuality is difficult, man! πŸ’— xxx

  4. I love that you don’t like labels because I agree – why label yourself according to what gender you like? I mean, people who like their own gender don’t go around making huge statements like, “I’m straight.” So why should anyone else? πŸ™‚

    • (I’m not trying to be mean by this comment! Please don’t read it like that! I just really like giving people other perspectives about issues like this!)
      Ok, I get what you intend but please (everyone) don’t devalue the importance of labels! Some people choose to label themselves because they find comfort with it.
      A lot of non-straight people label themselves because everyone is assumed straight unless proven otherwise. (That’s called heteronormativity). Straight people don’t have to make huge statments like ‘I’m straight’ because society already assumes they are. We (non-straight people) have to actively label ourselves otherwise we’re just going to be constantly assumed to be straight, which is uncomfortable and annoying.
      Sure, maybe in the future when heteronormativity isn’t a thing, labels might be unessecary. But now they are nessecary for a lot of people.

      Basically- if you don’t want to label yourself- great! Just don’t forget that other people do want to label themselves, and it’s important for them πŸ™‚
      (I might make a blog post about stuff like this at some point cause I know a lot of people haven’t really heard of the concept of heteronormativity and stuff like that before.)

      • You’re not being mean at ALL – it’s totally true. LABELS, in themselves, aren’t stupid. If someone wants to label themselves because they feel more comfortable, or for ANY other reason, then they should definitely go for it. I don’t think I phrased it right earlier: labels work for some, and don’t work for others but no matter what, they’re still as valid.

      • Nah you phrased it fine! I was mainly replying to Luna’s comment about straight people not needing to label themselves so why should anyone else. πŸ™‚
        I’m loving all the open mindedness in your comments right now Elm! You’ve got a great bunch of followers πŸ™‚

      • That’s cool, I totally get where you’re coming from and what you’re saying. πŸ™‚ I think what I said came across thre wrong way, I meant, I think it’d be nice to have a world where people didn’t have to worry about ‘coming out’, and if they wanted to label themselves they could do it comfortably πŸ™‚

      • Oh yeah that’s totally fine! I also can’t wait for that world πŸ™‚ (I just see people saying that all the time on the internet and thought you might like a bit of an explanation about why ‘coming out’ is a thing ^.^)

  5. My sexuality is…..*still loading*
    I don’t label myself, I think its just stupid, I don’t have a problem with people saying “I’m straight/bi/gay/lesbian” or whatever that’s them.
    Whether you’re a girl or a guy, doesn’t matter to me..

  6. It doesn’t really matter if the person you love does not love you back. Or if I’m optimistic, it doesn’t matter if the person you love loves you back.*sigh* I know that was confusing, but you get what I mean, right?

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