It’s Okay to Be Proud of Myself

I’m exhausted and shouldn’t be writing a post and why does the top of my arm ache a LOT? Argh.

Today, I felt really bloody miserable – this was about an hour ago. And so, I wrote what I call an ‘inner blog post’, talking to myself about how I feel. It’s a good way for me to realise what my thoughts are, and to get them out if they’re WAY too messy to go on a post on here.

Usually, I write them when I’ve had a breakdown, and I feel self-destructive and violent towards myself. In the ‘posts’, I often rant at myself, calling myself a ‘fucking idiot’ or such things. All in all, I beat myself up.

EXCEPT TODAY, I DIDN’T. I wrote it in second person, calmly (mostly calmly anyway) talking it through, and telling myself that I HAVE learnt from the situations I was talking about. The ‘post’ isn’t finished, but I’m going to leave it as it is, because otherwise I would have just rambled on and ON.

And it’s okay to be proud of myself for this. It might not seem much to you, because it wouldn’t to me if I had no idea of the context, but if I Ever show you guys any of the ‘posts’, you’ll understand me when I say it’s not pretty at all. It’s horrible. This one, though? I can read it without crying.

The ‘post’ was on the Ash situation. As in ASH, who I’ve cried over multiple times – who, whenever I talk about him, makes me WANT to cry. But I didn’t and I don’t want to and I’M OKAY. After 6 awful months, I’m OKAY with it. Not good, but okay. GOD.

Maybe I’ll show you it tomorrow, if you want to read it.

When you achieve something, no matter how small, be proud of yourself. You deserve to be, especially if it’s something you did for yourself and something you just felt happy with. THAT’s more important than anything else. So remember: don’t just think, “This was bloody insignificant and I shouldn’t be talking about it.” Think, “This is GOOD, and I will be okay, one step at a time.”

From Elm πŸ™‚

63 thoughts on “It’s Okay to Be Proud of Myself

  1. aw elm I’m so proud of you for achieving this . It takes courage to do so . I am guilty of putting myself dow and think I’m being to over confident or happy when I achieve something because I feel like saying I’m proud of myself in front of others is showing off . But lately I don’t and that is something I’m proud of . I realized people at school don’t really care about me so I don’t have to care so much about their stupid opignions of me . I’m so proud of you for this and it’s a coincidence because I just did a post ( I know I’m suppose to be taking a break ) about spreading positivity to bloggers whith writing them little love letters and you’re one of the bloggers I mention .
    I admire you and so proud of you for always being positive despite the negativity sometimes .
    https://parisianpages.wordpress.com/2015/12/28/girllove-for-bloggers-a-challenge/

  2. And not only are you proud of yourself, but I’m bloody proud of you too. I think it’s great that you have a coping strategy of writing things down to yourself; it can really put things into perspective I think. If you want to post what you wrote, do. A problem shared is a problem halved, so they say, and I guess that applies here also. Well done, and stay strong πŸ™‚

  3. Writing down my problems always helps me sort of look at everything from a different perspective. I love the idea of writing in second person, it’s like you are giving advice to yourself and as if the person who is writing isn’t you so it’s okay to be kind to yourself. (that made no sense okay okay) Anyway, I am SO proud of you and I love you lots. I recognize, even in the short amount of time that I have known you, how much you have grown and improved each and everyday. Keep going! x

  4. Hey,
    So I don’t know you all too well, but I’m really proud of you, too! Writing is a great way to let your feelings out. I do it even though I’m not that great of a writer haha.
    But I also wanted to tell you that it’s okay to use your blog as an emotional outlet, too. Sometimes you just need some people around you, you know?
    I don’t always let all of my feelings out on my blog, but I’ve done it quite a few times. I mean, I express my opinion a lot on my blog, but not really my emotions. But the times that I actually turned to my blog readers for some attention, I got it and it made me feel a whole lot better than I did before.
    If you ever need anyone, Elm, we are all here for you okay? xx

    Sincerely,
    Jo

    • Of course, and that’s what makes my day. Thanks so much for lifting my spirits; with just a comment, you’ve made me happy. Blogging has helped me so much, and I KNOW – thanks to you and so many others – that I can turn to it when I need help.

  5. You should never beat yourself up!!! I know you might be mad at yourself but there are other ways to figure things out! I’m really proud of you, that you could sort things out with yourself and writing things down help a lot!
    Bet of luck,
    Blog Girl xxx

  6. Oh, I’d love to read it if you’re willing to share! It’s always really hard to show your “true self” in posts. Often it almost feels like you HAVE to have a happy, sunny shiny life or something. But often times the more emotional, honest posts are the best well received! Be proud of yourself — you’re human! You’re only human, and it is totally okay to deal with it and have an outlet somehow. And by the looks of it is a much healthier outlet than you’d think. I’m so glad you’re proud of yourself. Little piddle paddle steps at a time is all life really is. I’m rooting for you. ❀

  7. This post makes me so happy. I’m guilty of putting myself down A LOT and seeing your achievement was a nice pick-me-up. I’m so proud of you for being able to achieve this and I hope this positivity continues πŸ™‚ your writing is really lovely by the way πŸ™‚

    • Aww thank you so so much! πŸ™‚ So is yours. I hope you know that you don’t have to beat yourself up, because you SHOULD be proud of yourself at your achievements. If you ever want to talk, and if you ever need a pick-me-up again, let me know!

  8. i’m so proud of you for coming this far. it’s not easy, but yet you try so so so hard to continuing going and smiling. you use your blog to spread this idea of positivity, and you will never know how much that means to the people who read your blog. i’ve never been a very positive person, but this post reminded me that even the smallest of smiles and the littlest of achievements count for something. continue smiling x

  9. Well done, my brave girl! πŸ˜€ And Elm, you have every right to be proud of yourself, you know. You’re brave enough to make it out of everything that life’s put you through, and I know that you’ll only get better and better at it. ALL OF US here are proud of you, so why shouldn’t you be? And what you just did, it’s not just a minor thing, it’s a big thing to achieve. I still find it hard to compliment myself or be okay with how I behave. I’m really proud of you, girl. πŸ™‚

  10. everyone goes through this and knowing there are other people going through it (like you) makes it better because then you know you are not alone. and you have such wonderful and caring followers that are willing to do anything to make you smile, even if its temporary(: xx.

  11. Awh, that’s AMAZING. I love your advice, and the idea of writing your thoughts down, trying to walk yourself through things sounds great, and the second person is such a good idea. I’ve not been following you for very long, but I’m glad to have found you, and I’m proud of you. ❀

    • I have the biggest smile on my face, you know that? Thank you – the fact that you only recently started following me, yet you STILL give advice and are just so lovely, makes me feel happier than you can imagine. Thank you so much!

  12. I’m so proud of you Elm! Now, you can handle your emotions. I’m also glad you’re okay with Ash. Also, I love your advice Elm. I will keep that in my mind!

  13. Yes, you go ELM! πŸ˜›
    And yes I would very much like to read it, if you feel okay enough with it to post it. And as far as the ASH situation goes, you’ve come a long way and I am certainly proud of you.

  14. I really love this post! Being proud of yourself is such a fantastic thing! Writing out your feelings is also something I’ve found extremely helpful in stressful and emotional situations. You’ve come so far and all of us are proud too! πŸ™‚

  15. IM SO PROUD OF YOU TOO YESSSSS also you are SO much better at this than me. When it was me going through this a lifetime ago it literally took me years, YEARS to let go and start being okay with it. AGAIN I AM SO PROUD MY CHILD and I hope you’ll stay okay – no, great – forever&ever&ever

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