For the first time ever, I applied a little bit of makeup – myself – before going to school. You can start laughing now, because even I was shocked: despite going shopping on Saturday for “beauty” items, I never thought I’d have the guts to go through with it. To actually say, “Oi! You don’t look shit when you do this!”
That’s what inspired me to make this post, because today I felt positive and like I could do something worthwhile. The makeup doesn’t make me feel more secure in myself; it’s a little extra thing that is new, and the fact that I could apply it without help gave me the boost of confidence I needed.
If you’re like me and your life is spinning out of control, and you feel overwhelmed, then here are a few things that have helped me – and may help you – to pick yourself up again. They’re just little things, but can make a world of difference to you if all you want to do is cry.
Sort out your room
I don’t know about you, but there’s something calming about organising something so personal as your room. When my room gets in a clutter and I get pissed off at life, a way to calm myself down is to tidy up, reshuffle everything or just make sure you know where things actually are. Being blind, it’s essential to me that I’m aware of where things are in my room, and so I like to check every now and then that it’s all in order. Try it and you may see that doing something productive helps you relax.
Make a list of people who care about you
This seems stupid, but you often forget who’s there for you. In a moment of fear or paranoia, I have to remind myself of who’s there and why they’re there. You have more people on your side, looking out for you, than you think: acknowledge it, as best as you can, by noting down everyone. It makes me feel more secure in myself, and so I know that next time I’m terrified, I can refer back to the list and remember: I’m not alone. Neither are you.
Do something creative for a while
If you’re swamped by essays, writing and screaming balls of fire – erm, I mean work – a way to combat that is to do something else. Don’t feel guilty; you’re not a failure or a piece of crap for doing something you love! Mine’s singing and creatively writing; yours could be dance, sport, artwork and drawing, or anything like that. Step away from the homework and keep in mind that you’re not some work machine fiend superhero invincible human. Anyway, doing something you like to do can make you feel better, and so you can approach the bitch that is life with a positive mindset.
Talk and laugh with people
This one’s especially good with people you don’t see every day; it can be refreshing. Sometimes, I feel stifled and so lose all motivation to do anying, but it doesn’t HAVE to be that way (yeah Elm, take your own bloody advice!). A huge mood-booster (THAT is not a word shh) for me is Skyping bloggers, and just laughing with them until my sides hurt, or talking to random people in class.
Take care of yourself
Yes, that includes hygene and cleaning. Being female, I enjoy having routines that I stick to when it comes to skincare: cleansing my face, using moisuriser, all of that which you should do anyway. It gives me something to stick to, and makes me feel healthy; even eating healthily can improve your mood. I love chocolate to a scary degree, but if I eat it all the time, it makes me feel upset, and so little things like remembering to eat a balanced diet are so important. For anyone that knows me, I’ve become rather… Involved with looking after my skin and my way of living recently, as evidenced by my constant need to make sure I’m not over or underdoing things. Looking after how you live and yourself can just make you go outside and not want to crawl into a hole and howl for 20 years.
These seem like obvious things, but trust me when I say that I sometimes (all the time, whoops) forget to do them. Slowly, over the past 6 months, I’ve been implementing them more in my life and they’ve helped me to feel a little more grounded, stable and together in my mind.
What kinds of things do you do to make sure that you’re helping yourself as much as possible?
From Elm 🙂