Afraid Of School

It’s safe to say that I really didn’t put enough effort into my schoolwork this year, or my exams in general. I say this to people and they act as if I’m joking when in actuality, I couldn’t be more serious. I screwed up work-wise and also emotionally, was sad, upset and angry at myself the majority of the time and I was the reason I had a shit time.

Writing this the night before school starts, I’m feeling especially scared. I don’t want to get into the motivational decline of AS-Levels, especially after all the shit which kicked off at the start of it. I blame myself – not for instigating it – but for letting it affect me and letting it carry on. This will be a rambling post, by the way, but I need to get my anxious feelings out because otherwise I never will.

I need sleep but I’m sat here worrying about the state of my thoughts. I need to pick myself up but I don’t know how; it’s got to the point where I genuinely don’t know how I’m going to be or feel when I return from school. It concerns me to note that I may either feel relieved and motivated or utterly shit, wanting to sob and just fix all of the things that have gone wrong.

Simultaneously, I want to get tomorrow over with and also I want to stay home. Exciting things may be coming up work-wise and in terms of school but I can’t bring myself to be happy about that because I need to cross the hurdle of not doing work first. If I never get motivated, I’ll never do work and that’s the crux of it. It’s not that I don’t do the work to a worrying degree; it’s that I don’t know if I’ll care enough to get stuff done.

When did this all start? Was it at the start of year 12 when French and personal things were affecting me? Was it around December when I realised that nothing was making me happy and that all the work I was doing was pointless? Was it before that when I had the habit of procrastinating and being lazy or was it before any of my exams, when I was so convinced I’d fail that I didn’t do enough revision?

I know that I can do this but I’m terrified, scared, paranoid and I want everything to go away whilst also wanting to be surrounded by happy things to forget about me. I have no idea what (i>exactly is getting me so worked up. I’m shaking, feel cold all over and my eyes are too widened to cry at the minute.

I can succeed in my subjects but that might be at the cost of my feelings and creative mind; I don’t want that. I want to sing, write, have fun and laugh but now, it feels quite far off. If I can balance work and a social life, everything will be okay but I don’t want to screw up again and make people unhappy.

Tomorrow, one of three things will happen: I will panic and lock myself into a work-mindset at the expense of talking to people; I will have a terrible attitude to work but revel in the fact that my friends are there or I’ll find a balance. I’m hoping it’s the last of these three but who knows?

I’m scared but I can’t let it rule me. I’m going to go to sleep but the thought of waking up tomorrow to face a day of self-induced fear is making me procrastinate sleep.

Sorry for the disjointed and fragile nature of this post. Inspiration can strike me at the strangest of times and I needed to get this written before the thoughts disappeared into a flurry of confusion inside my head. In the morning, I’ll look back on this and frown but for now, it’s the best I can do and that best will be enough.

If you’re returning to school now or did last week, I hope everything goes well! Remember that even if you feel a certain way now, it won’t last forever. You still have time to let yourself be happy: there will always be time for that. Being happy can be better than getting top grades in every single subject.

From Elm πŸ™‚

19 thoughts on “Afraid Of School

  1. I hope that in the morning your thoughts are a little more put together, and that you feel better. You seem a bit “all over the place” with this post, (and I mean that in the nicest way possible) do you want to talk about it?

    • I’m okay πŸ™‚ I’m feeling a little better now. It’s just so difficult and yes, I do feel all over the place. Just trying to put myself back together you know? You’re so supportive and I love that; thank you xx

      • I’m glad you’re feeling better now, and I hope that you continue to feel better πŸ’™πŸ˜Š

  2. Oh, I hope you can get through this :/

    I too sometimes feel sad and upset and this completely mess with my motivation to do anything. What I do now is to just do everything when I’m feeling motivated and then I let myself rest when I’m unmotivated. Ha, sometimes doesn’t work but can help.

    Good week for you and good school!
    And don’t be too hard on yourself!

    • Aww, thanks! Your solution to things will definitely work for me; I find short bursts of productivity and then go with that! Or TRY… Haha! I really appreciate your comment xx

    • Thanks loads; I’ll do my best! I think things haven’t been so bad the last couple of days but I’m just playing things by ear. Ahh, we’ll just see how things go πŸ™‚

      • I only just saw your reply today (been very inactive haha) hope you are doing better!

  3. I’m returning to school today and I feel shitty because I’m afraid of school too. Like damnn but I guess today was okay, it wasn’t as terrifying as I expected, I hope you’re feeling better!

  4. Goodluck, my only words of wisdom to you is – school sucks but it’s not the end of everything. This is my mindset now that I’m officially half a year behind everyone else my age.

  5. please don’t apologize for being “disjointed and fragile”. your feelings are completely justified (not that they have to be, this is /your/ blog after all)! i hope you’re feeling better now ❀

  6. Elm, it need not to be always be worrying like this man! Life wants YOU to SHINE. It is important that you understand that. As I read this post, I could so recognise those feelings. Feel happy bout Yourself. We all will be better off once you do! πŸ™‚

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